Many things in life can prevent us from being thankful for what we have, often devaluing the significance of what we’re already blessed with. Maybe at a young age your friend’s parents bought him or her a new car once he/she turned 16, while you had to save up and pay for your own. Maybe you’re at work during the summer, working a job you don’t necessarily like, while on Instagram you see friend’s of yours taking vacations across the country. Or, maybe other individual’s excel in areas of life that you wish you could; athletically, socially, financially, etc. You often find yourself comparing your life to the lives of other people, causing yourself to become unappreciative of your own qualities or the good in your own life because in your eyes, others have it so much better.
This way of thinking is toxic. When we compare ourselves to other people in this kind of way, the person comparing themselves to others will always be at a disadvantage. You’re aware of the good and the bad in your life, creating a balance; so how is it fair to you, to compare the good and the bad in your life, with just the good in someone else’s life? We all struggle while we’re present on this earth. We all go through our own battles and have to overcome our own obstacles. You may be struggling, but so is everyone else around you in their own way. Everyone see’s qualities in other people that they admire, and that’s ok; just don’t let those admirations harm your personal self-esteem.
It’s also important to realize that whether you believe it or not, we are all blessed with invaluable qualities and advantages in life. We all have things about us that our peers admire; so while you’re looking at a peer in admiration, wishing you had some of their gifts in life, they may be doing the same to you. Acknowledge your own qualities, your own gifts, your own accomplishments, and allow them to uplift your self esteem. Train yourself to admire those around you in a healthy manner, without allowing comparison or envy to come into the picture.
Always remember, before you admire another person’s accolades and accomplishments, consider what they’ve had to go through to get to where they are now; the saying “nothing in life worth having comes easy” applies to everybody. It’s easy to become jealous of another person’s accomplishments when all we see is the end result. Let me give you a hypothetical situation: You see a man driving a brand new Lamborghini down the street and as a 20-something year old young adult, you’re just struggling to make ends meet. That may provoke a bit of jealousy; you probably wouldn’t be as jealous however, if you had the chance to witness the many hours he’s put into his field of work, enabling him to put himself in a position financially to be able to afford a Lamborghini. The many times he’s failed or the many obstacles he’s overcome to get to that point in his life. Instead of getting worked up over the unknown, just simply admire and put the focus back on yourself. You’ll get to where you want to be in life in due time.
Comparison is the thief of joy because when you compare yourself to others, you typically take the good and the bad from your life, and compare it to just the good in other people’s lives. Every person is created uniquely with their own set of talents and blessings, so realize that you too have a gift that sets your apart from others. You too have a gift that people admire. Acknowledge your own blessings in life, and you’ll be a lot happier.